Life management insights, strategies, hints, ideas, and tips from Dr. DClutter™.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Name Change

I love my name!! I thought it was such a clever representation of my life's goal and who I am. What do you see when you see Dr. D. Clutter™? My intentions were to convey that the "doctor is in" to help you overcome your life management issues, especially clutter and disorganization. The message has been received, but the name seems to be causing some confusion about what to call me. I have been called Dr. Clutter so many times, I've lost count!! Let's be clear-I am not a "doctor for the promotion of clutter"-I seek to eliminate clutter, thus the D. Clutter™ part of my name. So, to alleviate this often humorous, but erroneous interpretation, I have decided to,(DRUM ROLL, PLEASE) drop the period after the "D" and combine it with the word Clutter. Thus, from this time forward Dr. D. Clutter™ will no longer exist, except in those already published and public instances which I cannot change. I will now and forever be Dr. DClutter™. How amazing is it that the simple removal of a period would bring so much clarity? The moral of this little story? If there is any room for doubt or confusion, make a change!!

Dr. DClutter™

Friday, November 27, 2009

I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. D. Clutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Be certain to take the time to acknowledge the many blessing you’ve received, especially on this day. Save some turkey for me!!

Dr. D. Clutter™

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Toxic Friends

The telephone rings, you check the caller ID and decide not to answer. The doorbell rings, you look through the peephole and then pretend you’re not home. What do these two things have in common? You’re trying to avoid the person on the other end. Do you have someone in your life who is a toxic friend? You know the type; the person never has a good or positive word to say. The sun never shines in her life, so she’s always in a negative state of mind and wants you to join her. He never gets the “breaks” so every experience is a negative one and he wants you in that angry, dark place with him. She brings your joy quotient down every time you’re in her presence. He just exudes unhappiness and wants you to feel the same way. These are toxic people and you should avoid them at all costs. It’s our nature to want to help people feel better and that’s not a bad thing. The problem arises when you give so much of yourself to someone who willingly “takes” all that you have, but offers nothing to help you in return. They’re toxic and you should run the other way when they seek to pollute your day.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Procrastination versus Planning

In both procrastination and planning, you may delay accomplishing tasks, but in only one do you experience progress and success. With procrastination, you delay even planning an event or task, which robs you of your peace of mind, and almost guarantees a rise in your stress level. You’ll find that you expend as much energy avoiding as you would in actually performing the task. With planning, even if it’s a delayed plan, you’ve done the work, but don’t allow a plan to become procrastination by not following through. A plan without eventual completion (action) is simply procrastination in disguise.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Monday, November 23, 2009

Keep Your Word

“I’ll call you”, but you never call. “I’ll see you later”, but you never see them again. “I’ll help”, but you never lift a finger in assistance. These are simple phrases that many of us utter without thought that we’re making a promise. If you don’t intend on following through and honoring your word, don’t say it. It’s really a simple thing NOT to say what you don’t intend to do.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Friday, November 20, 2009

I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. D. Clutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Thrill Seeker?

Do you appreciate the adventure of the unknown? Does your heart race at the thought of heading into a new day without any plans? Well, if so, this post is not for you. For the rest of you who find that living the life of the adventurer hasn’t been working for you, I suggest that you plan as much of your day the night before. I know it’s not as exciting as not knowing what the next adventure will be, but at least you’ll know what you’ll wear, eat and will prayerfully arrive on time.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Task Focus

What things, when you think about having to do them, cause the hair on your skin stand on end? Do you find that those are the things that you tend to procrastinate on completing? One way to get things accomplished is to focus on the task, not on the fear of completing the task. Break the task into manageable segments and focus only on that segment and see how successful you’ll become.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

See, Wait or Do?

Are you the type of person who sees a problem and waits for someone else to find the solution? Or are you the type who sees a problems and can’t wait to solve it?

Dr. D. Clutter™

Monday, November 16, 2009

Resentment

If you’re holding a grudge, feeling resentment towards someone, chances are you’re feeling lousy. Further, chances are that the other person is just skipping happily down the boulevard while you’re sitting at home sulking and feeling badly. How many times have you heard that being angry with someone affects you more than it does the other person? Well, it’s true. Anger, resentment, grudges, and all other negative feelings are as if you are sipping from a time-release poison and then waiting for the other person to feel the effects. Doesn’t make sense does it?

Dr. D. Clutter™

Friday, November 13, 2009

I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. D. Clutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Thursday, November 12, 2009

You Choose

I wish I could take full credit for this little piece of inspiration, but alas it came from Monk, one of my favorite televisions shows. Randy, one of the characters said that despite people always teasing him, making fun of and often disrespecting him, that he viewed happiness as a choice. So, he chose to be happy despite his circumstances. I love that thought and live my life as close to it as possible. That doesn’t mean that sad days, disappointments and unhappy times don’t happen. It just means that I don’t allow those times to rule my life.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Veteran’s Day

Join me in honoring those brave souls who have and continue to defend our country. We salute you all!!

Dr. D. Clutter™

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

When?

If you’re like me, as a child, I attended Sunday School and heard many of the most popular biblical stories. There was always the story of how God created the world, man and woman and all living things. Then there was the story of how He instructed Noah to build an Ark and fill it with a pair of every species (yes, I’m skipping ahead). Well that story always started me to thinking. Was the Ark cluttered and too full? Probably not. After surviving a flood, man invented things (skipping again). Then he had to create places to store those things. Is that when the story turns and disorganization entered the world? I’m taking a great deal of creative license with this posting, but think about it and give me your thoughts.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Monday, November 9, 2009

Smile

I was watching a PBS special, "The Family That Walks On All Fours", about a family whose adult children walked on their hands and feet, as a child might, in a "bear crawl". I won't go into the specifics because you can easily research the show on the PBS website. The family had very little in the way of material possessions and had seemingly lived difficult lives, but what struck me was their tenacity and determination. The parents wanted the same things that parents all over the world want for their children-good health and happiness. What further struck me (and almost brought me to tears), were the smiles on the faces of the adult children. What a joy it was to see them smiling despite the adversity they faced. It's easy to smile when you're financially secure, have good health and most of your needs are met, but it takes a special person to smile, when from the outside it doesn't seem to be anything to smile about. I'll remember this family in those times when life has been unkind, things haven't gone my way and I'm tempted to pout or complain.



Dr. D. Clutter™

Friday, November 6, 2009

I often read a small town paper online called the Daily Herald. In the opinion section, there is something called Sound Off! The purpose is for readers to share comments about what matters to them, ranging from topics about life in the city, politics and personal pet peeves, to compliments and complaints. I thoroughly enjoy reading Sound Off! and decided to offer something similar to you, my faithful followers. I love it!! In Sound Off! readers are encouraged to stay on topic, be respectful and the use of foul or obscene language, personal attacks or uses of another's identity to post are not allowed. The rules for what I am calling "Let Go!! with Dr. D. Clutter™" are the same. Every Friday is our official Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™ day. I'll post your advice, ideas, stories and thoughts. It'll be a place for you to share your life management and organization issues as well as discuss life events that inspire, empower or bother you. You can "leave it all here", as long as you follow the rules I discussed above. All comments will be reviewed before posting. So get ready, get set and Let Go!! w/Dr. D. Clutter™.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Profoundly Simple

Sometimes a quote is so powerful in it's basic simplicity that I'm amazed no one said it sooner. I have to give credit to Tia. R. Chase for bringing this one to my attention. It's profoundly simple-"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."-Eleanor Roosevelt

Dr. D. Clutter™

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Adjust Your Focus

Have you ever looked through a camera lens and the picture looked blurry? Well, in that case, you'd simply readjust the focus and then take the picture, right? So, can't you learn to do that in life as well? You can train yourself to refocus your view, readjust your language, thinking or situation. If things don't look or go the way you want them, refocus your view.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Fair to Middlin'

I remember my grandmothers saying that they were feeling "fair to middlin'" when someone asked how they were doing. It always made me laugh. But on a more serious note, have you ever been in that place where you're not happy, but you're not sad either-you're stuck someone in the middle? You have to choose which emotion you will allow to rule. I'm not saying either is wrong, or better, but what I am saying is that you need to decide which will rule your life at that moment. Decide, deal with it and then move on.

Dr. D. Clutter™

Monday, November 2, 2009

Say What??

We've become so conditioned to repeating clichés and phrases without really giving much thought to the meaning of what we're saying. You've probably heard or even uttered the phrase, "It's the least you/I could do". Have you ever given thought to what it means? Well, thankfully, I have. What someone is saying when speaking those words is basically this, "Although I want to help, I don't really want to give 100%, my full attention or a strong effort, so I'll give the minimum or do as little as possible". Really? I'm sure the motives are pure when those words are spoken, but if we pay more attention to the literal meaning of what we say, we may not say it. Just a thought.

Dr. D. Clutter™

About Me

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I am Dr. Darnita L. Payden, Executive Director/Owner of Dr. DClutter™ Life Management, a division of PreciousOnes™ LLC. I have a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and over 20 years of experience working to help clients discover their strengths and talents. Having worked as a therapist, college professor, grief specialist and trainer, I have encountered in my journey many of the issues my clients may face. I have a sincere desire to help you find clarity, organization and independence in your life and environments. I know that life can be hectic, but I desire to help my clients bring as much order, peace and enjoyment back into their lives as is possible. What separates me from the norm? I focus on the client from a holistic perspective. I realize that most people desire a functional and an organized life, but may simply need support, understanding and information about why they have the habits or tendencies that have led to disorganization. I do not perform “quick fixes” or provide “one-size-fits-all” guidance, but I strive to provide strategies to my clients that will be life changing and useful for a lifetime. Dr. DClutter™ is a name well earned!!

Dr. D. Clutter’s™ Publications

  • Simplify. Simplify. How to Declutter Your Life
  • Clutter Makes You S.I.G.H.™
  • Declutter-Four Benefits of an Organized Life
  • Dr. D. Clutter’s™ 21-Day Journey to a New You
  • Dr. D. Clutter’s™ One-Day-a-Week Guide to a Year of Random Acts of Kindness (plus 20 extra days, just in case)
  • Dr. D. Clutter’s™ Wiseisms and Truthisms™ Daily Inspirations, Observations and Humorous Musings

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